Just when I thought my dance card was full…
I made a new friend.
It is no secret that I am drawn to strong women. I started The New 40 on Facebook primarily because I wanted to highlight the amazing women in my circle. Women who are willing to be transparent and share their testimony. Women who are chose to let God use them completely. Sometimes these women do this at the risk of ridicule and isolation. Those are the strongest of all.
Renee is such a woman.
I didn’t want to wait until Friday to share her story. Besides… she’s only 30. 😉
Here is her story, in her words. May it enrich your world as it has mine.
You don’t expect when you get married for the first time that it would end in such a way as mine did. I went from being this blushing bride and this awesome newlywed wife to a guy who I thought was my heaven sent to a woman that felt damaged, scorned, and abused. When I found out I was pregnant I was excited and that quickly ended Nov 21, 2007. Numb is the only word to describe how I felt when the doctor said to me that I was HIV Positive.I was a new bride, newly pregnant and newly infected. All by my husband. You think you know everything there is to know about someone before you marry them only to find out it was all hidden and you were being fed lies. Never once did I think I was going to die. The only fear I had for my future was rejection and that still didn’t stop me from being open about my status from the beginning and sharing my story with the world.
I tell anyone who is married. Don’t think that because you’re in this committed union that you’re safe from the disease. Some men cheat, some women cheat. It’s ultimately up to you to know your status and get tested!
In my life now I have 3 beautiful children. My twins who I were pregnant with when diagnosed deal with various developmental and physical disabilities. My days are spent making sure they have every single thing they need. I also make sure that I am taken good care of being that not only am I HIV positive but I’m also a Type 2 Diabetic.
I started 2 years ago waling 2.5 to 3 miles a day in one hour. Then decided I wanted to do more and help myself relieve the stress and tension while achieving a healthy lifestyle so I incorporated Zumba and the Insanity Workout with Shaun T. More recently I also do the Crunch and Squat Challenges. In these 2 years I’ve lost 20 pounds, my diabetes is more controlled, my energy level has increased and I feel no stress whatsoever! Oh and all I drink 95% of the time is water! I buy cases of water.
I guess I say all of this to tell you that no matter what you’re dealing with and what trials come in your life you have to stay on top and love yourself first. In order to love and care for others you have to love and care for yourself.
Check out Renee on Faces of HIV
Renee also has a foundation dedicated to sharing her message. Check it out here.